As everyone else says, gather all the information you can, ask questions, get a second opinion, see if there is an "after" support group in you area where people will talk to you. My brother is a geriatric physician and he always says life is a trade-off so know the risks and gains.

Lastly as big brother also likes to tell me: "surgeons love to cut" so talk to a doctor who has patients that have had the procedure but doesn't perform it himself. (I didn't listen to him on this one and had painful and long recuperating back surgery).

Wishing your partner the best in making a difficult decision.

<font color="#33CCCC" size="1">[ May 22, 2006 10:47 AM: Message edited by: havimom ]</font>